A: Getting ethanol is tricky. Lab Alley is the only supplier I've found that will sell it to individuals. Lab suppliers will sell if you have the right business paperwork in place, but will usually attach a huge hazardous shipping fee due to the flammabililty.
You can get Isopronaol on Amazon.
B: Isopropanol isn't that toxic. Much less so than methanol, for example.
You may pay more for it, but "culinary solvent" is what you want to buy if you are trying to get it as an individual. It's pure food grade ethanol.
It's still tricky most places in the US -- you will likely have to jump through hoops to pay taxes and/or get the license to purchase, depending on your state's rules. I agree that IPA is not enough of a concern to actually justify it in my mind.
You can get Isopronaol on Amazon.
B: Isopropanol isn't that toxic. Much less so than methanol, for example.