In many/most jurisdiction police are pretty much forced to arrest _someone_ (usually by written policy) if there is a DV complaint, yet the conviction rate is way under 100%. It is probably the least reliable arrest record as a prediction of finding of guilt.
As someone who long was married to an abusive spouse, I'd offer that we spouses tend to view mistreatment as a workable, if difficult, part of a marriage. Our desire to put events behind us doesn't mean that the events didn't happen.
The public doesn't know what events happened if they don't make it to trial or some other public forum. An arrest record unfortunately can't distinguish between events put behind and those that never happened. A presumption of innocence barring further evidence is not an unreasonable approach.
> A presumption of innocence barring further evidence is not an unreasonable approach.
General calls to stop bullhorning about arrest details are best directed at police and justice depts first. While they get a pass, calling out anyone else makes little sense.
> The parent comment ... does not use words like allegedly for things that have not been proven.
The 2021 arrest (and charges) seem plainly factual. Is your position that the arrest might not have happened?