> ...I feel as if online people feel like marriage is a bunch of negative compromises that are always one sided or something.
Bitching about the negative things in life with one's buddies is an activity that stretches back for hundreds of years, if not for as long as we've had language. It's a bonding activity, and an essential one.
The big difference between -say- the 1980s and now is that one's buddies often congregate in clubhouses that post their conversations publicly, rather than just shooting the shit verbally. So, folks "these days" get to see how much convivial bitching between buddies there actually is out there, rather than being blissfully unaware of it.
Yes, there are certainly folks who are dreadfully serious about their complaints and hate their SO with a burning passion or whatever... but those folks are certainly in the minority of complainers.
It's not just that the posts are public, it's also that some unknown portion of your "buddies" on a place like Reddit or HN are actually female.
Slightly misogynistic jokes with a group of male friends who know you and know your SO (and presumably know how your relationship with her actually is) land completely differently than the same jokes in an anonymous online forum.
Bitching about the negative things in life with one's buddies is an activity that stretches back for hundreds of years, if not for as long as we've had language. It's a bonding activity, and an essential one.
The big difference between -say- the 1980s and now is that one's buddies often congregate in clubhouses that post their conversations publicly, rather than just shooting the shit verbally. So, folks "these days" get to see how much convivial bitching between buddies there actually is out there, rather than being blissfully unaware of it.
Yes, there are certainly folks who are dreadfully serious about their complaints and hate their SO with a burning passion or whatever... but those folks are certainly in the minority of complainers.