We also can't have a debate about defining women where even daring to ask the question brings about mobs.

As much as the absolutist "men can never become women" crowd attempts to shut down these debates there's also the equally harmful groups who say that "anyone who says they are a woman is one and even questioning that makes you a transphobe". It's easier to dismiss the former as intolerant, but the latter is becoming the (only) socially accepted opinion on places like Reddit. Which is insidious for such a contentious topic.

I personally don't see how we can solve this cultural issue without there being some very clear grey area in between.