Negatives cancel, so I think you cancel the first 2 and get "this is to say that some companies are pathologically incapable of delivering software", which reads a bit nicer
Double-negatives in the "not+no" formulation tend to be a special case. The easiest rule (as you realized) would be "If there's a 'no' before the noun (direct object?), in an already negated phrase, then ignore the 'no'".
Undoubtedly, but it was a response to someone explaining how to use English (correctly), not how to understand someone else using English (possibly incorrectly).
If I say 'proper nouns have a capital first letter' I don't think 'actually oliver sometimes people don't do that' is helpful.