Every time this subject comes up I can't help but feel like society does a somewhat reasonable job of identifying and discouraging negative masculine behavior but doesn't do the same for negative feminine behavior. Why is the feminine personality position assumed to be the "correct" one that everyone must adjust to? Sure, everyone is entitled to a little whining time, and hopefully your partner is empathetic when the need arises, but perhaps it would be better if we discouraged whining in favor of solutioning.
I agree with this. Some amount of emotional venting is completely healthy but when it gets to the point where someone is unable to deal with any negative emotions on their own, and must rely on other people for support for even the smallest day-to-day mishap, that's their problem, not everyone else's.
And, like what you said, sometimes the solution really is more important than the emotions. This is especially true for the small things, which are the bulk of what we face every day anyway.
