Laziness and/or apathy are value judgments; they offer no useful insight into behaviour unless you believe that sin is a real thing.

Not really. You're choosing a definition those words that involves a value judgement.

yes to Datomic, also the JVM but Smalltalk-80 takes the prize for me.

an excellent survey of the field: https://dataintensive.net/

I cannot recommend this book enough! I thoroughly enjoyed it and really appreciated the clear definitions and strong opinions.

Agreed. This book will give a fantastic way to think about all these.