I think this is too much credit given for emotional labor. NY has an intrusive din and these people live in their cars all day. They evolve toward chronic irritation alleviated with impotent shows of force.
Had a hard time parsing this, assumed "breeder" was the role of a human ranch hand, and you were telling them about family trivialities ("bull") so they felt included and soothed. Theory really fell apart around the time you started giving them corn and "sweet feed".
The eternal red flag of a DB UI that tries to support wildly different backends explains a lot of the problems. Many sane and powerful Postgres features can't be used because Directus also needs to support SQLite, for example. Views not properly supported, search features inadequate, graphql DSL with arbitrary limitations, a lot of weird or dysfunctional relational patterns when something much simpler would do... it's a parallel, inferior system on top of stock pg that is very frustrating when used at some depth.
I think part of this is the genuine benefit of social media, it's used for education, connection, political organization... not quite the same as a cigarette. You can pick any emotional or moral response you're having from it and cite some aspect of its multifaceted nature to bolster your position.
