>note: this is different from presenting a different vibe from how you actually are IRL which I generally advise people is long term counter productive
No, sorry, that's exactly what a LOT of this advice is doing - getting someone to change how they communicate to satisfy someone else with ways and methods that aren't natural to them.
You can test whether this is really true if someone is willing to accept written answers to interview questions exchanged over email. Clear communication supersedes the format.
You cannot pretend this is anything other than pressuring people who prefer to communicate differently, which is fundamental to human tribalism.
But I've observed it is always one side that should be satisfied, rather than reaching a compromise.
No, sorry, that's exactly what a LOT of this advice is doing - getting someone to change how they communicate to satisfy someone else with ways and methods that aren't natural to them.
You can test whether this is really true if someone is willing to accept written answers to interview questions exchanged over email. Clear communication supersedes the format.
You cannot pretend this is anything other than pressuring people who prefer to communicate differently, which is fundamental to human tribalism.
But I've observed it is always one side that should be satisfied, rather than reaching a compromise.